Here’s the problem. Well, one of them, anyway.
As adults, we have to get shit done. Because, like it or not, if we don’t do it, it won’t happen. And the consequences for not doing things are for realsies. If you don’t feed your cat, get groceries, pay the heating bill…well, you get it.
The problem is, getting stuff done is the worst.
But you have to get stuff done.
But it’s the worst.
So how do you reconcile these seemingly irreconcilable differences?
As far as I can tell, there are two options:
- Get super rich and hire someone to do all the adulting for you
- Find your path of least resistance
If you are able to accomplish #1, then I’m not sure why you’re reading this blog but since you are, would you please send me my dream pair of Loubitians?
For all the rest of us, let’s talk about #2 – finding your path of least resistance. And I say your path because everyone’s path will be different and it’s your job to find it.
Interestingly enough, I have found that everyone despises different parts of adulting. For instance, I really hate grocery shopping whereas it doesn’t really bother Mr. Juris Doctor. On the other hand, I don’t mind sorting and organizing, but he abhors it.
For some people it’s cleaning. Doing laundry. Getting the car washed. Cooking. Clothes shopping. Doing taxes.
What is your Big Bad Thing? What is the thing you dread? The thing you avoid?
No, you can’t say all the things. Well you can, but you’ll see in a moment why that probably won’t work.
Once you know what it is you truly hate to do, see if you can come up with a way to eliminate it as much as possible. It could mean doing a trade off with your roommate or partner. Or, it could mean hiring some help.
For me, that meant using a delivery service to get our groceries.
For you, it might mean having someone come in and clean. Or doing one of those meal delivery services. Or laundry pick up. Hiring a personal organizer. Or paying an accountant.
I know, I know, I know. You’re wondering how this is different from that first option of being insanely rich. It is, because it’s just one thing (or, ok, maybe two).
Stop forcing yourself to do The Big Bad Thing. It’s ok. It’s ok to really really really hate something and then to make the adult decision to take it off your plate. You deserve it. You’re an adult.
And you know what will happen when you get rid of The Big Bad Thing?
You’re gonna feel like:
You will be less unhappy. Less frustrated. Less crabby. Which means you will have more mental energy and more time to tackle the Annoying Things.
There’s a reason today’s adulting survival tip starts with a verb: find. It’s because you’ve got to put in the work here. Starting today, make it your mission to find ways to simplify The Annoying Things.
Here are some tips on how to do that:
- Pay attention to The Clench. You know what I mean. When you’re doing something and your body is starting to clench up in frustration. This is a signal that it’s time to stop and say there’s got to be a better way.
- Believe that there is a better way and never give up. Just because you tried that one product/app/system and it didn’t help, doesn’t mean you stick to your old way forever.
- Don’t think that just because something works for other people that it has to work for you. Don’t give into that craziness. You need to find your path of least resistance.
- Be patient when trying something new. Sometimes it takes a while to learn a new way of doing something – but in the long run it will actually make your life better.
- Ask your friends. You’re not the only one trying to adult. Someone you know may have discovered a handy tip that works for you.
- Do some research. Thanks to the power of the internets, there are probably lots of helpful suggestions for WHATEVER is Annoying Thing you’re dealing with. If something is giving you The Clench, maybe stop right there and Google it.
Believe that you deserve to simplify the annoying things. Believe that you are worth taking the time to try and give yourself a better, happier, less stressful life.
When you simplify The Annoying Things, you also are more likely to get those Annoying Things done!
Here are some examples of how I have attempted to simplify my Annoying Things:
- I hate reading the news but want to be informed, so I read The Skimm.
- I hate cleaning the cat box, so I got this GIANT cat scoop so that I have less scooping to do.
- I have a really hard time getting up in the morning, so I shortened my morning routine by showering at night.
- I get SO annoyed trying to rummage through my wallet to find the right card that I end up not getting the savings I probably could, so I separated my cards.
What are some tips that you have to help us simplify the Annoying Things?
Now get out there and find your path of least resistance, you adult.